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Love and Loss

December 17, 2012 by Trina 29 Comments

I haven’t had the heart to blog since December 6th. My family’s world was rocked that day and we’ve been heartbroken since.

My amazing father in law John passed away that Thursday morning. Jonathan called me at work in tears to tell me. I was in shock, in denial and so hurt. I just couldn’t believe this was happening. It just didn’t seem real.

He had battled pneumonia on and off for the last year and a half, had developed asthma, and generally had a really hard time breathing lately, especially at night. He started to get sick a few weeks ago and we suspected it was pneumonia yet again. He made an appointment with a pulmonologist but was going to have to wait 2 weeks. Unfortunately he passed away in his sleep a week before that appointment.  He was only 57.

He and my mother in law are such a huge part of our lives {as are my parents}. I love my in laws like my own parents. They have both helped raise our kids. John has kept them since they were both born, took them to school and picked them up, and attended class parties when we couldn’t. Every one at the school loved him. In fact, John was loved where ever he went. He never met a stranger.

His passing will leave an undeniable void in our lives.  Life will not be the same without him.  I don’t understand why this happened but I still trust my Lord.  I have hope that we will be reunited with him again and that he is now whole and not hurting.

John loved his family more than anything and was especially proud to be a grandfather.  His grands affectionately called him GG.  My kids love their GG to the moon and back and they will miss him so very much. At first I was afraid that because they are so young they might forget him, but I think he made such an impact on them that’s not likely to happen.  And also because we won’t let it happen.  We will always talk about him and tell them stories about their GG.

We love you John.  You were the best husband to Marie, the best dad to Jonathan and his siblings, the most amazing GG, and the best father in law a girl could want or have.  I’m so blessed to be in your family.  We love you and miss you so much!

{This is the slideshow Jonathan and I put together for the funeral.}


  1. That was a beautiful tribute Trina. I’m sorry you’re hurting.

  2. Trina, I don’t even know what to say. I’m so sorry.

  3. I’m so sorry for your loss! Your family is in my prayers.

  4. I’m s sorry for your loss. There is nothing to say to make it easier. I’ll be thinking of you and your family.

  5. So sorry for your loss.

  6. Oh sweet friend… I’m so sorry… I know after loosing your father, this just has to leave an even bigger hole to lose the other “father” in your life. So thankful you have wonderful memories to help carry your along until you meet again.
    Headed to watch the video… I know I’m gonna tear up. Kleenex near by!
    HUGS to you all!

  7. I’m so sorry my sweet friend, so very sorry :(

  8. im so sorry for your loss trina. i wish i had the words that could make the pain go away, but ill be sending prayers your way.

  9. I am so very sorry for your loss, Trina. I pray for peace and comfort for your family right now.

  10. Oh Trina my goodness I am so very sorry. What a beautiful tribute- it made me cry and I don’t know him, but I do feel your pain just watching the love in the slideshow that you and Johnathn were able to capture so beautifully and a perfect song. Please tell Johnathon I am sorry for his loss and I do hope in time God will bring healing to all of you and I know from what I saw he will be dearly missed. Your children will not forget their GG, trust in that since he was such a huge part of their lives.

    • Thanks so much friend. I still can’t believe it. It’s such a shame because he was an amazing man. He loved me just like his own daughter and thought the world of our kiddos.

  11. SO sorry for your loss!!! What a beautiful tribute!!!! Love you, friend!! XOXO

  12. I am so incredibly sorry for your families loss..

  13. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  14. So sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.